Reassessment of a Good Man

You deserve someone who makes you feel good about yourself.

If the man in your life uses your vulnerabilities against you or likes to highlight your weaknesses, then he’s not good enough for you. No man should poke at your insecurities, suppress your voice, or belittle you. If your man makes you feel stupid, small, ugly, or like you’re the enemy, then he needs to go. Lastly, if the man in your life says he loves you, but doesn’t show his love, then you deserve more than that.

If you can love him, but you can’t trust him, then you deserve better. If you can hear him, but he doesn’t hear you, that is not okay. If you can understand, comfort, and empathize with him, but he can’t understand, comfort, or empathize with you, then that is not good enough.

You should be able to share your passions, support one another, and love each other.

You should be able to share your passions, interests, and secrets with your partner. But, your partner should also be able to share those things with you. If you find yourself in a relationship where you support your partner’s passions, dreams, and ambitions, but he can’t do the same for you, then you deserve better. If you can give him love, trust, and respect, but he can’t give those things to you, then you can do better.

Don’t feel like you owe it to anybody to stay in a relationship where you are not valued, loved, heard, cared for, understood, or happy. And you definitely don’t owe it to anyone to stay in a relationship where you are abused. If the man in your life makes fun of you, is mean to you, hurts you, or yells at you, then you deserve and can find someone that doesn’t hurt you like that. Most importantly, if your man emotionally or physically abuses you, then you definitely need to leave.

You need to stop making excuses.

You shouldn’t stay in a relationship where you are not happy, loved, or understood. Hold on to the belief that being alone is not worse than being with someone who hurts you. You need to hold out hope that there is someone out there who will appreciate you for you. I guarantee you that there is someone who will love and cherish you for the person that you are.

Listen to your inner voice as if she were your best friend.

I guarantee that she is telling you that you will never be able to grow as a person if someone else is always keeping you down. So please, stand up. Change is hard, but sometimes change is necessary. Please, remember that you have value. You are special and unique; and there is nobody in this world that is exactly like you.

“Don’t ever let anyone distract you from the fact that you are AMAZING. The world hasn’t seen the best that you have within you yet.”

– Eric Worre

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I'm a SAHM, blogger, singer, Ph.D. I talk about real issues affecting real people. I share the mistakes that I have made in my own relationships with my spouse and children, so that others can learn from my experiences.

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