I’m Suzi Dean. I have a Ph.D. in Industrial/Organizational Psychology with a minor in Human Factors. A mouth-full, right? What that means is that I understand people, psychology, business, and systems and how people interact with them.
Currently, occupationally speaking, I am in a hybrid role.
I am half cleaning lady, half laundress, half chef, half chauffer, half executive assistant, and half referee. Oh, wait a second…that makes me 3 people?! Okay, let me clarify: I am doing the job of 3 people, but, unfortunately, I only get paid in free hugs because…I’m a Stay-At-Home-Mom (SAHM)! But, I like to think that I’m more than just a Stay At Home Mom. I think I’m more of a Stay-At-Home-Chief-Executive-Officer because I oversee, articulate, and execute the strategic plan for my family.
I have two bright, funny, talented, beautiful, exhausting, and oftentimes infuriating children. The same can be said for my husband (aka, my third child, LOL). Although I’m only in my late 30s, I have been through a lot and have learned many life lessons on my journey as a wife and a mom. Many times along the journey, I felt like I was tricked into this life. I was sold the American dream associated with getting married and having kids.
On more than one occasion, I felt like, “why didn’t anybody tell me the truth?
Why didn’t anybody ever tell me how hard marriage is? How is it that nobody ever told me how difficult it is to raise children and that it is exponentially more difficult with every additional child? Why didn’t anybody tell me that having babies and raising children would be sooo exhausting and completely deplete me of all of my energy reserves? Lastly, why didn’t anybody ever tell me that it was going to mess with my body, my brain, and my sleep…indefinitely?!?”
So, I am on a one-woman-mission to inform the uninformed. My mission is to tell people the truth. I am calling this blog SuziTalk. Basically it’s like a TED Talk, but it’s me, Suzi! I lost my voice somewhere along the journey of becoming a mother and wife, but I found it again and it turned into this blog. This has become an outlet for me to express sentiments and ideas that I have been harnessing for a long time.
I’ve had a lot happen in my life that has given me a unique perspective on life, marriage, and raising children.
I am a thoughtful researcher by nature, so I have applied that research mentality to the things that are nearest and dearest to my heart: my relationships with my children, spouse, friends, and extended family. I also have strong opinions when it comes to a variety of social justice issues.
Despite my research, I feel like I have made most of the common mistakes and come out on the other side a little beat up, but a better version of myself. I hope that by sharing my personal experiences with you, you can learn from my mistakes without falling prey to them yourself. I’m going to share with you my truth when it comes to life and relationships. I am going to be honest, up front, and raw. But, everything I talk about is shared with love in the hopes to help guide you in your life’s journey. I am looking forward to starting a dialogue with you. I hope that you enjoy reading my blog and possibly even learn a thing or two along the way.
Feel free to email me at the following address whenever you want to chat.
I made a mistake a long time ago, one that I believe is common for many people: I fell in love. Although falling in love is great in concept, when you fall in love, that suggests a dependency on the other person. Your love for that person is so strong that it makes you fall to the ground. You need that person to hold you up and bolster you and provide you support.
People say ignorance is bliss, but I don’t believe that for a second. Ignorance is sticking your head in the sand and pretending like the world isn’t moving around you. Ignorance is fantasy, a denial of truth, and general lack of acknowledgment of that which is real.
Ignorance allows people to be cold, callous, and devoid of feeling.
Moms need to put their oxygen mask on before assisting others. If we don’t take care of ourselves, we can’t possibly be of service to our children, family, and friends. I have forgotten this important piece of advice countless times and it has left me depressed and unable to carry out my daily functions with any enthusiasm. Sometimes it’s hard to be there 100%. It is hard to be the Pinterest perfect mom.
We as people are starved, depraved of empathy these days. There is a desperate need for connection in this world. We need casual conversation and deep conversation. It is a desert out there. Honestly, the loneliness epidemic has now become a loneliness pandemic that is rivaling Covid. The loneliness pandemic is leading to drug abuse, alcoholism, depression, and thoughts of suicide.
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